i love the site "aha! parenting"..
i found it a few years ago and {when i follow her advice} it helps so much with how i deal with my kids! i feel i've been struggling more lately to react the way i should, so i browsed thru it tonight for a refresher/advice. i just so happened to stumble upon this page...
and i was pretty excited about it!
i feel like this blog's taken a much more serious tone than i had planned, and i worry i may sound "know-it-all" or such and like i'm on a soap box with my posts! and i worry too that my opinions may seem a bit extreme... especially my "parenting and media" one. so i was excited to read this article on media and to have it pretty much echo exactly how i feel about the subject! sooo, if i didn't make sense in my post before, check out her site, it's very interesting! a little "outside the box" thinking and i like it!
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and if you're interested in just a couple good reads from her site, loved this one...
just some general good advice!!
and loved this one too.
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/Consequences_Punishment
when i first read through this site, i was pretty astonished that she pretty much discourages all forms of punishment! i first read it when i was just starting to have to really "parent" my oldest and we would get in these huge "power struggles" and there were a couple days i felt like it was nothing but fights! i just reacted the way i thought i was "supposed to.." he'd do something wrong, i'd send him to timeout. he felt bad, so he did something else bad, i sent him to timeout, he felt bad... it just never ended! so then i tried her approach and his response changed dramatically! i realized punishing my kid was actually causing more of a problem than there was to begin with! since i changed my approach, i can't recall having another fighting day like that. it works well for us.. when i can follow it.. i'm not gonna lie, it's still hard not to threaten!!
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/Consequences_Punishment
when i first read through this site, i was pretty astonished that she pretty much discourages all forms of punishment! i first read it when i was just starting to have to really "parent" my oldest and we would get in these huge "power struggles" and there were a couple days i felt like it was nothing but fights! i just reacted the way i thought i was "supposed to.." he'd do something wrong, i'd send him to timeout. he felt bad, so he did something else bad, i sent him to timeout, he felt bad... it just never ended! so then i tried her approach and his response changed dramatically! i realized punishing my kid was actually causing more of a problem than there was to begin with! since i changed my approach, i can't recall having another fighting day like that. it works well for us.. when i can follow it.. i'm not gonna lie, it's still hard not to threaten!!
